Tuesday, February 12, 2008

Projections



This is the little chart that I have been waiting for the past 10 days. This is a projection chart that Rumor Queen puts out every month and I have been waiting to see our LID included. So, according to RQ we are in the horrid case for a July referral. I am liking that! I am thinking there may even be a chance for a June referral. I can honestly deal with a July referral. Shea gets out of school the end of June and a few short weeks later I see my baby's face. I then spend my summer preparing for the arrival of Lily. OK, so this could so not pan out this way and I know it could even be September before a referral but I will deal with that when the times comes. For now I will think optimistically becasue it feels so good!

Monday, February 4, 2008

February Referrals

February referrals arrived today. The cutoff is December 27th, 8 DAYS! This is so much better than the 3 day batch we had last month. The CCAA is less than one month away from our 1/26/06 LID!!!! I really think this is going to happen for us. At this point it looks like we would receive a referral in the beginning of July, with travel in September. Looking like I will have a picture to stare at on the beach all summer! It is still possible that we could get an earlier referral or a later referral but July is the most likely right now.

With that being said, my heart is still heavy knowing that lots of babies and children are suffering right now in China. Southeastern China is being hit with some of the worst winter weather in recent history. Some of these areas are not accustomed to the snow and bitter cold. The orphanages are running out of heat, diapers and food. Our Lily is quite possibly in one of these orphanages. If you pray, then please say a prayer for all the babies and if you have the means to do so then please consider making a donation to http://halfthesky.org/
Half the Sky is tryng to send money and relief to these orphanages and every dollar counts. Thank you for any support and prayers you can give!

Friday, February 1, 2008

PLEASE HELP


Friday, February 01, 2008




The message below is a letter sent to all members of Half the Sky asking for help. The blog entry is long but we ask that you take the time to read it and help all of the children in China if you can.

Thank you Melissa and Patrick


Hi,this one really hit home. In all likelihood, most of our daughters-to- be (INCLUDING Lily) are experiencing something pretty horrific right now. Please read, and if your financial situation allows, help:


Welfare institutions in south and central China are having the hardest time dealing with the weather disaster. This part of the country is simply not equipped to deal with extreme cold or heavy snow and ice.The most common critical problems are power outages, lack of safe drinking and cooking water, lack of fuel, diapers and public transportation. In many places where buses have stopped running, our Half the Sky nannies havebeen walking hours (in one case, 4 hours) along icy roads to get to the children. As conditions worsen, our nannies and teachers are remaining at the institutions day and night. They have given up the idea of going home to their own families for the holidays. They need quilts. They need warmclothing. They need coal, water, disposable diapers and food.Here are the reports I have thus far, while in-flight. I will send more soon. Where you don't see a report, either all is well or I don't yet have information. I will tell you when we've heard from everyone.We'vealso given all the directors an emergency number to call when/if the situation changes.


Hunan Province –Chenzhou has had no electricity or water for six days. They are relying on coal for heat and cooking. The supermarkets and banks are closed. Staff is using personal money for baby food, diapers, coal and water. Costs are rising due to shortages. They have a natural well which,thankfully, is not frozen. Even the older children are helping to fetch water. They have perhaps six days of food remaining. The local government is overwhelmed by the disaster and is unable to help much.Shaoyang has seen heavy snow every day for 20 days. There is sufficient water and, for the moment, there is power, so the children are warm. However, 5 of 6 power poles have been downed by weather. Only one stands and the institution fears it will fall as well, leaving them without electricity. Much of the rest of the city is already dark. Children and caregivers continue to work and play together. High school students are cramming for exams and trying to ignore the cold. Everyone prays that thepower pole will continue to stand.


Yueyang also has no electricity. The one functioning power generator isbeing used in the children's dormitory. They are relying on coal heat but the price has tripled in recent days. They are running out of food and have applied to the local Bureau of Civil Affairs for funds to buy more. Our HTS nannies have been walking for hours to get to work, often slipping on the ice, "even though they try to be cautious."


Xiangtan has had snow for the past 10 days. The main water pipe is"broken again." There is no water for cooking right now but they do have electricity, coal and blankets. They are still able to buy food butprices have gone way up. Not all of the HTS nannies can get to work every day. They are keeping the programs going as well as they can and makesure that at least five nurturing nannies are there with the babies everyday, along with the institution' s caregivers.


Jiangsu Province –Changzhou has seen some heavy snows but the director reports that the children are fine. The director says that he's doing his best to ensure that the children do not suffer. Public transportation is crippled by the snow and HTS nannies and teachers are waiting for hours to catch a bus for home or even walking home in the snowy dark.


Nanjing reports no problems at all despite the heavy snows. I tried tof ly into Nanjing yesterday but it was not possible.


Anhui Province -Chuzhou has both water and power. Only public transportation has failed.HTS nannies and teachers are walking to work. They are leaving home extra early to be there for the children.


Guangxi Province –Guilin has two broken HTS heater/air conditioners in the Infant Nurture rooms and they've asked us to replace. The rooms are very, very cold.They ask for more soft matting for the floors and also snow boots for ourHTS nannies who've been slipping and falling in the ice and snow as they come to work. They are so ill-equipped to handle severe weather.


Jiangxi Province –Fuzhou lost power for a few days but now it is back to normal. The snowstopped a couple of days ago but now is falling again. The directors and HTS staff have gathered all the children into one big room to keep them warm. They've bought New Years clothes for the children and will have a party no matter how bad the weather. This year, however, the foster parents will stay home to keep the children safe. The institution has enough food and water. They want us to focus on those in more serious trouble and ask us please not to worry.


Jiujiang says they've never faced such bitter weather. They desperately need disposable diapers. Washable diapers cannot be dried. They need warm clothes, shoes, gloves hats quilts and warm mats for the floors.They need medicine for infant coughs and colds. There is no water for bathing. The local community has offered totake children in for the Chinese New Year and the institution feels this may be the best decision to keep them safe.


Huangshi reports that the freeze is so severe that all heater/airconditioners have stopped functioning. They need quilts and warm clothesfor the children. They need disposable diapers. Several HTS nannies have fallen on the ice on their way to work and they need medicine to treat cuts and bruises.


Gathering these reports together makes me think about how careful we have always been at Half the Sky to maintain our focus on nurture and education programs. Ours is not a medical or relief organization. There are many wonderful groups who do that work. Probably the primary reason we've been able to accomplish so much and reach so many children is because we've maintained our focus on our core mission -- providing nurturing care forc hildren who've lost their families..But a moment like this really cannot be ignored. The tragedy of HurricaneKatrina in the US taught us that no matter how wealthy a country mightbe,its vulnerable citizens (old, poor, ill, and orphaned children) are the ones who suffer most when disaster strikes. Even as China seems to be entering the first world, a disaster like this is quite simply crippling.We know that orphaned children will be among those who suffer the damage most. I say this because I think we should break one of Half the Sky's rules and, if there are sufficient funds raised in the Little MouseEmergencyFund, we should offer relief (water, food, diapers, quilts, clothing)toany orphanage where children need help. Let's see how this goes.


If people are as generous as I think they might be, we will work with the provincial Bureaus of Civil Affairs in every hard-hit community, and offer assistance to all welfare institutions where there is need.Please lend a hand, however you can. You can donate to the LittleMouseEmergency Fund by calling us in the US at +;1-510-525-3377 or in Asiaat+852- 2520-5266 or by visiting us at http://www.halfthesky.org. Once there, you can click on "Donate Now"or go to http://www.halfthes ky.org/help/ docs/usdonation- orderform. pdftodownload a form to mail or fax. Donations are tax-deductible in US,Canada and Hong Kong.Please forward this message and tell your friends and familyI will be back with an update very, very soon.


Thank you!JennyJenny BowenExecutive DirectorHalf the Sky Foundationwww.halfthesky.org

Saturday, January 26, 2008

2 YEAR LID ANNIVERSARY!

2 years ago I thought that by January 2008 we would have had Lily home for a year. That is certainly not the case. We still have many months left on this journey and quite a journey it has been! So, 2 years ago China logged our dossier into their system and we have moved through the review room and now we sit somewhere in limbo. We know they have looked at our Dossier and luckily we were asked no questions. Our file is hopefully in the matching room but nobody knows how long it will take for us to be matched to our daughter. Over the past 2 years I have hit my lowest lows but I know that one day I will have my daughter home from China and all 3 of my children will be under one roof. I really hope I will not be celebrating a 3 year LID anniversary, although I know a lot of people who will. I have prepared myself for not getting a referral this summer and that we will be delayed by the 2008 Olympics. Overall, I have come to a "sort of" peace about this wait. I will be forever grateful for the gifts this wait has given me; patience, compassion, new friends, and for truly understanding how blessed I am to have 2 healthy boys! I will be a better mom to Lily than I would of been 2 years ago. Lukcily, I have the pleasure of spending the day at a wedding with some of our best friends so there will be something to celebrate!

Saturday, January 19, 2008

Winter vacation

We just got back from a few days away. We went to Sunday River, in Maine, for a little family vacation. Patrick and myself got on skiis for the first time in 6 years and the boys spent a lot of time in ski school. My legs are still burning, Shea can officially ski and Bryce has no fear of skiing but stills need to learn the whole stopping thing! It was a great 3 days away and I even managed to stay off the computer for most of the time. This was definitely something that would have been much harder to do with a little one with us so it was nice to take advantage of the time we have with just the boys. Shea was a star and by the end of the 3 days he was able to ride a chairlift and ski down the mountain. I was teary eyed watching him come down the mountain. I LOVE to ski and haven't done it in so long and have lots of memories skiing as a kid with my family. It was so hard to believe that MY son was skiing with me! Bryce was a trooper and did well in ski school but still needs to learn the art of stopping. We did take him up the chairlift but getting down was no easy task. Having a 40 pounder between my legs was not easy! Enjoy the pics..



Shea and I at the top of the mountain





Bryce coming down with the help of the instructor.
Here comes Shea.. second from the back.

Wednesday, January 9, 2008

The Nursery


I need to blog about something "happy" because rumors in "China adoption world" are just bad, bad, bad!! I will not even get into them right now because nothing has been confirmed true. At the point I am planning for summer 2008 without Lily. Anyways, back to good things. Right before Christmas Pat finished painting the walls and I LOVE the color. I still need curtains, a book case, lamps, and a few other things but we have plenty of time for all of that. So here are the pictures. What do you think??

Friday, January 4, 2008

Getting Uglier

I found out last week that the cutoff for referrals was December 19th 2005. It has taken me a week to be able to write about this because I could barely talk about it. For the first time in 2 years I had real doubts if we were doing the right thing. Is waiting another 6 - 9 months the right thing? Is Lily in China? After our waiting meeting last night and seeing the "99ers" visit with their girls I was reminded that we really don't have a choice, we have to wait because Lily is in China and we have to bring her home. I KNOW we were meant to parent a child through adoption, I KNOW there is a reason for this journey, I KNOW our daughter will come home to us and our family will be complete. I DON'T know how much longer we will have to wait, I DON'T know what to say to people when they ask "how much longer?", I DON'T know how to survive the rest of this wait without being sad and angry. SO, I need to figure out how to do the last part. I need to figure out how to be a better person during this wait, I need to do this for my boys and for my husband! They deserve a better me. The CCAA is 38 days away from our LID but if they continue with 3 day and 5 day batches per month we are still 6 - 9 months away from our referral. Right where we started 2 years ago. So, looks like I need a new project to keep me busy or even better, a vacation to keep me mind off of the wait!